I will be the very first to admit – I’m not the best with balance.
In anything really – work, friendships, food. It’s either the entire bag of flaming hot cheetohs, or none at all. Going full speed and diving into one thing is very much-so how I operate.
But… like with everything, I’m a work in progress.
So, today I’m going to share 3 tips on how I’m working to incorporate more balance in my life lately. It’s my hope that these tips will help you improve your relationships, work habits, and everything in-between.
Tip #1: Put it on your calendar.
Whether it’s scheduling out a 30-minute phone call with an old friend, signing up for a workout class, blocking out time to read a book, or booking a reservation for brunch with your girlfriends… If it’s not on the calendar it’s most likely not going to happen.
This was a huge realization for me.
Ever since I started using my Google Calendar to it’s fullest (blog post on that: here) I’ve been able to create more balance in my life.
If you leave plans to the wind, they’ll most likely blow away.
While I am someone who very much-so enjoys my alone time, I found myself isolating myself a little too much and not pushing myself. You know, those nights home on the couch can become a little too inviting.
Tip #2: Realize that you’re not going to be perfect, and it’s okay!
We all mess up. Our 20’s are for growth, learning, maturing & figuring it out along the way.
Having a balanced life doesn’t mean that you live some picture perfect life.
To me, having a more balanced life means making time for everything and everyone that matters to me. Carving out time for things that bring me joy, like going to the plant store, re-decorating our apartment, cooking homemade meals.
Some friends and family members I only get to see once a year. Others I see every week / month & more frequently. This really does make me sad, but I’ve learned that it’s okay and we all have crazy busy schedules.
Here’s another example:
In July, Billy and I went 3 weeks without having a home-cooked meal. The week before we left for vacation, we emptied out our fridge. The week of vacation we ate out each meal. Then when we got back, we didn’t get a chance to go grocery shopping until the next weekend.
But, in the past two weeks since we’ve been home, I’ve cooked us lunch and dinner every single weekday.
It’s not about being perfect, and always having it altogether. It’s about making space for both the unpredictable, as well as the predictable.
Which brings me to my next point…
Tip #3: Make the first move.
So often, I find myself reminding myself to make the first move.
Especially when it comes to asking for what you want. This goes for anything, romantic relationships, friendships, moving up in your career, etc.
If you never communicate what it is that you want, then you’ll never get it!
So, how does this apply to living a more balanced life?
Well, ask yourself what area of your life you feel isn’t as strong.
Let’s say that you’re struggling in your career, and you don’t know where to turn or what to do.
How will any of your teammates or co-workers know how you’re feeling if you never voice it, and ask for help? This is a continuing lesson for me, as I never want to burden others with my problems. But, it’s amazing how much more connected and understood you will feel once you communicate that you need HELP.
Or, let’s say that you’re struggling with your friendships right now. You just moved to a brand new city, and don’t know anyone.
It’s on you to make the first move and put yourself out there so that you can start to build new friendships and relationships with people.
Not being by yourself all of the time will make you feel more balanced.
I hope that these tips helped 🙂 I’m going to get back into the swing of writing more frequent blog posts!!