Hi my beautiful friends.
For this week’s blog post, I wanted to talk about something a little more deep than the usual light hearted, fun content around here. I’m gonna be talking about my advice on how to embrace change.
Change is really hard for me. Embracing it doesn’t come naturally. It’s something that I have to push through and work through each and every day. For me, change stirs up feelings of: overwhelm, anxiety & fear.
My parents divorced when I was in fifth grade – as a young girl, this was really traumatic for me. It’s hard to process those types of emotions when you barely even know what emotions are. Each week I’d go back and forth and spend one week at my dads, one week at my moms. Luckily they were only a 3 minute drive from each other, but the constant back and forth and change of scenery, schedules and houses became overwhelming for me.
So, today I wanted to share three strategies on how I push through anxiety and fear that change stirs up within me.
Tip #1: Meet It Head On & Verbalize It.
One thing that has been really powerful for me is to say, out loud, what is causing me to feel anxious. There’s something strong about verbalizing what’s going on internally – putting words on feelings that are hard to understand is therapeutic.
Whenever I’m feeling anxious – whether it’s with a change of routine, change of scenery or change of people in my life I try to verbalize OUTLOUD what exactly I’m feeling.
For example, let’s say that you’re going to a new place for the very first time and you’re feeling fearful about it. Take a deep breath, and say out loud to yourself “These thoughts and emotions are just that, thoughts and emotions… They aren’t reality. I’m feeling anxious because I’m stepping into the unknown but there’s nothing to be fearful about.”
Tip #2: Practice Makes Perfect
This one is kind of a weird tip, but stay with me.
The more you practice putting yourself into situations involving change, the more of an armor / shield you build up to it. It becomes more “normal” rather than something to fear.
If you’re more routine based (as I am) and feel comfort in knowing exactly what to expect ahead, then putting yourself into situations where you don’t have control may help you cope with these feelings!
I know for me, the more I put myself out there into situations that are more unknown such as: starting this blog, going to events, etc… The more comfortable I begin to fear. But the build up to those changes can be really overwhelming. That’s why this tip is that practice makes perfect. The more you do something, the more normal it becomes! 🙂
Tip #3: Get Outside Of Your Head!
This may be the best tip of all – but find someone who you can talk to about this. For me, it’s Billy. Whenever I’m feeling anxious about change or nervous in general, I always talk to him about it.
He’s so logical where as I’m way more emotional, so having him talk some sense into me is so helpful (lol). But having a friend or significant other or parent or someone whom you can communicate with about how your feeling will instantly make you feel better! You’ll feel like you’re not alone (which you never are).
I hope that these tips helped! 🙂 If you ever need someone to talk to, I’m always here!