In a few short weeks I’ll be turning 24, in a few short months I’ll be 2 years removed from graduating college. Wow, how time has flown!
These past two years have changed my life in ways that I had no idea that they would. When I look back on who I was in college, I empathize with who that person was. It’s almost as if that was a shell of who I am today. Sure, I’m still bubbly and outgoing… But I’m a lot more reserved and mature than I was.
I think that living on my own (well, with Billy) for the past two years has really contributed to this. When you move in with your significant other it just does something to you – it makes you want to be the best version of yourself. Makes you strive to create, execute and build a life together. You want to be the best version of yourself because now it’s not only your life in your hands, but it’s your significant other’s as well. You are each other’s biggest influences – this can either be productive or destructive.
So, when I asked on my Instagram the other day what blog posts you wanted to see, one of the requests was about how to get back on your feet after college. I’ve said this so many times in previous blog posts, but my heart seriously goes out to all seniors in college or those who may have just graduated (I mean, I did too, but I’m talking about within the last year).
Those few months to a year after I graduated college were the most confusing time of my life. I had no idea what I wanted to do. Had no idea what I was “supposed to do”. I really didn’t have a direction, I just knew that I wanted to do something, be passionate about it and GROW.
Tip #1: You Have To Want To Have To Figure It Out.
Did that make sense? I hope it did.
Look, I’m not claiming that I have it all figured out (far from it, actually). But what I’m trying to say is that you have to want to want to figure it out. You’d be surprised at the amount of people who claim that they want to “get their lives together” yet sit around watching Netflix all day or going out to the bars every weekend.
TRUST ME, I did my fair share of partying in college which is exactly why I felt so lost after college. My 4 years in college weren’t aimed towards anything – I was just learning, learning, learning without a sense of direction or a specific area that I wanted to learn about.
But, back to my main point – you have to WANT to figure it out. How do you do that? BY TRYING. How will you ever know that you’re going to absolutely love or absolutely hate something if you never start.
Idle dreamers never become do-ers. You have to take action. Whether that be reaching out via email to someone in the industry you want to get into, and asking them to get coffee. Or taking a job that you THINK you’d be interested and qualified for.
Your plan doesn’t have to be perfect! It doesn’t have to be perfectly laid out with a timeline to match. But you have to have some sort of goal or direction that you’re at-least marching towards. Without it, your efforts will be scattered all across the board.
Tip #2: There Is No Right Way.
I know that this saying is so over-blown, but it is the honest truth! You don’t have to do what society tells you to do. And that goes for anything.
Your roadmap / plan / direction may look vastly different from those of your peers – and that’s OKAY! It’s what makes this journey of life unique for every single one of us. What may be point A to you might be someone else’s point D.
Do you want to do something completely different than what you studied in college? NEWS FLASH: YOU CAN DO IT!
This is my biggest gripe with our education system as it stands: people go to college for 4+ years, get a degree(s), and feel STUCK / BUCKETED / LABELED. They feel as though they can only do and are qualified for jobs in the field that they received their degrees in.
BULLSHIZZZZ. Your talents, skills & abilities are up to you – you weren’t born knowing how to walk. You had to learn. If you want to be a musician, you can learn. If you want to be a novelist, you can learn. If you want to be a digital marketer, you can learn.
Do you see the common thread here? YOU CAN BE ANYTHING YOU WANT TO BE. You can be a freaking astronaut – that’s how much you need to believe in yourself and your abilities. Okay? Okay.
So, next time that you have a self limiting belief surrounding what you an and cannot do – reference this blog post :).
Tip #3: Be Your Own Advocate.
YOU have to push yourself to do the hard things – your parents aren’t there anymore to make decisions for you. As an adult, your entire life is in your control.
It’s up to YOU to do the hard work. It’s up to YOU to decide that you want more for yourself. It’s up to YOU to push yourself outside of your comfort zone every. single. day.
This tip can also be applied to other areas of life such as: landing a job, getting in-front of the right people, asking for a promotion, or quitting a job even though you’re afraid.
In life, you must advocate for yourself because it’s the only way that you’re going to make real changes & strides. If you’re always waiting for someone or something to give you permission to go after the thing that you want… You’ll be stuck on the sidelines forever.
When I want something or have my mind set on a certain outcome, I’m relentless until I get it. My dad tells me this all of the time. I will find a way to get it. Whether I have to try 30 different times in 30 different ways, I’m not satisfied until I get it. Like seriously, it will bother me until #MissionAccomplished (LOL, this could be a good thing, or a bad thing)
I hope that these three tips were helpful – I know how scary and overwhelming post-grad life can be. You may feel lost or confused right now, but the only person who’s going to pull you out of that state is yourself.
If you have any questions, or would like to talk more about this topic… My DM’s are always open! 🙂