Coffee Conversations | Episode 1

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Coffee Conversations – a new weekly series that I’m going to be bringing to the City of Sisterly Love. How exciting!

So, what is it you might ask?

It’s a morning sit down – over coffee – where we can chat all things Self Talk

Personal development is a space that owns a piece of my heart. One of the most important things that you could ever work on is yourself. It’s the center of self love + self care.

So, today’s post (and the inagural post) is going to be about the book THE FOUR HOUR WORK WEEK, have you read?

Last night, Billy and I read together before bed. I read a few chapters out of this book by Tim Ferris.

The tagline of the book is, “Escape 9-5, Live Anywhere And Join The New Rich” sounds enticing, right?

But, essentially I’ve taken away some of the underlying principles and not necessarily the whole “let me just work 4 hours a week and live anywhere” mentality. Because, I think I’d go insane.

“Excitement is the more practical synonym for happiness, and it is precisely what you should strive to chase. It is the cure-all”

So, what does that mean?

Has anyone ever said to you, “Follow your passions” or “Chase your dreams”. What Ferris is saying is essentially that you should chase one singular concept: excitement.

What excites you?

What gets you pumped in the morning?

What is the work that you can do for hours + hours and lose track of time.

Ferris believes that that is what you should be chasing.

It becomes overwhelming when we refer to our future as “dreams” and “passions”. Instead, ask your self this simple question: What excites you?

“There’s no difference between a pessimist who says, “Oh it’s hopeless, so don’t bother doing anything,” and an optimist who says, “Don’t bother doing anything, it’s going to turn out fine anyway.” Either way, nothing happens
– Yvon Chouinard, founder of Patagonia

How amazing is that quote?! I was jaw dropped when I read it because of how true it is.

TAKE ACTION. There’s a difference between an idle dreamer and a do-er.

You know those stories that we hear from adults, “If I could do it all over again, I would have studied to become a _______” or, “It’s always been my dream to travel to _________, but I’m too busy.”

Ferris’s premise behind this part of the book is to uncover fear that’s disguised as optimism.

Optimism that things will get better or that they’ll work out instead of ever taking action on them.

Are you disguising your fear as hopeful and wishful thinking? I sure have done that in the past.

He says to ask yourself this, “Are you better off than you were one year ago, one month ago, or one week ago?”

If not, he says that things will not improve themselves.

Recognize that we all feel fear at some point – it’s normal.

Fear to take a leap. Fear to start. Fear of change. Fear of the unknown.

But the only way to get closer to our ideal lives + things that excite us + inspire us is to change, move, shake, PIVOT.

So, this concludes today’s Coffee Conversations – I hope that you enjoyed.

You can expect one of these posts each week! I’m so excited to continue doing them + bringing you lessons and some self talk love!

Talk tomorrow!

XO,

Emily