I’ve always been my own harshest critic – talking myself out of or down from things before I even start them. This year, I made a vow to myself to work on that. I needed to become more aware of how hard I was being on myself without even knowing it. That little voice inside of my head? Yeah, well it was no longer serving me to say the least.
You know, that voice that beats you up when you make a mistake. The same one who is overly critical of your actions or in-actions. The same one who’s always talking the loudest, yet producing the least amount of action.
I don’t know why I’m always so hard on myself – is it a habit that I formed, or is it a natural human behavior that’s been ingrained in our DNA for ages. Sometimes I think, “Wow, is everyone this hard on themselves?” And to be completely honest… yeah, I do think that we’re all our own harshest critics. We don’t give ourselves enough credit for the things that we do right AND wrong. We harp on the tiniest of things for days, yet don’t take time to celebrate those little wins we gain daily.
Not only are we too worried of what others will think of us, but we’re even more worried of what we’ll think about ourselves. How many people have taken a good hard look at themselves in the mirror and thought, “Am I a good person?” Am I acting each day in a way that serves others. Am I being a good friend, a good lover, a good partner, a good teammate? Am I spreading joy, or poisoning my sphere with negativity.
I’m not saying let’s get all mushy-gushy. What I am saying saying is, let’s get honest. Let’s get authentic. Let’s get real. With ourselves first, and then with others second.
Please believe me when I say that I believe positivity is a learned behavior. Some people are more genetically predisposed to be positive than others. But it’s our duty to become hyperaware of this, and be consciously positive. We owe it not only to others, but more importantly to ourselves.
So, let’s continue to confront that little voice in our heads together. The one that prevents us from feeling the greatest happiness, joy, love and connection. Negative self-talk is one of the few things that stands in the way between us and truly connecting with others.
After all, life is about connection – it’s one of our basic, primal needs. We want to feel like we belong and that we’re connected to one another. But that can only start when we become more aware of that little voice inside of our heads that wants to prevent us from doing so.